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This home is wild and full of love…we are the Wilsons! I am the mother of 3, wife to an amazing man, photographer and now I am also a homeschooler. Our life story is complicated and peppered with great love and great loss. This blog will contain bits and pieces of our continued journey through the loss of a child, adoption, homeschooling and life in general.
My husband and I met while in high school, cliche I know but we feel we were truly lucky to have found each other so early in life. We will be celebrating our 10th anniversary this year and look forward to aging together. Boy meets girl, boy marries girl, girl has baby and they live happily ever after. Life is not quite that simple and rarely goes according to our plan. Our first son (Caleb) was born with profound challenges and passed away at 4 1/2 from medical complications. Caleb was and is one of the greatest joys in our life. His strength and love was amazing to behold and is our inspiration to this day. We started our journey to special needs adoption when Caleb turned 2. We felt we had more love and care to give to a child who did not have a family to call their own. Sadly there are a plethora of such children and we wish we could adopt them all, but that is obviously unrealistic 🙂 It took us 4 years to get the referral for our son Jonah but he was worth the wait! Jonah was born with Fetal Alcohol Syndrome and this disability will affect him for the rest of his life. For those of you who do not know about FAS, let me tell you that the condition is completely preventable which is the saddest part of all. Fetal Alcohol Syndrome is the result of alcohol consumption during pregnancy. It is unknown how much alcohol is “safe” if any and so the only way to prevent FAS is to NOT DRINK ALCOHOL while pregnant! Jonah is learning new skills every day and it is unknown how his disability will shape his life. As with Caleb our motto is “Hope and strive for the best but plan for the worst.” This means never say your child can not achieve something, do all you can to help them thrive but make sure you are able to accept the realities. A few months after we got Jonah’s referral we found out we were expecting a baby. We were blessed twice in one year! Lucas was born a happy healthy baby 7 months after Jonah came into our home. Our boys love each other so much it takes my breath away. It makes me sad that Jonah and Lucas did not get to share that bond with Caleb but they will know him through us.
Our decision to homeschool was not made lightly. To be honest I wasn’t sure if I could make that sacrifice. Due to Jonah’s disability he has a short attention span, poor organization skills and does not handle transitions well. We tried public and private preschools and finally decided he really needed to be home-schooled. The public school system in our area was not meeting Jonah’s needs, in fact he didn’t seem to be learning anything. Once we moved him to an all day private Catholic Preschool he was thriving in the classroom but the transition to home after the school day and on the weekends was a nightmare. He would scream for hours for no apparent reason. We learned from his teacher that there were a handful of younger children in his classroom that were throwing tantrums and Jonah was mimicking their behavior. He seems to gravitate towards the children who misbehave and takes their behaviors to new extremes. After some research we found this is common for children with FAS. The behavior he is imitating now gives me a headache but is relatively harmless, I am concerned about what will happen when what he is imitating is not so benign. Every child learns differently and with homeschooling we will be able to cater to each child’s needs. This is a brand new world for us and I am sure there will be good and bad days but I think this is what is best for our family.
Thank you for reading and God bless!
♥ Sarah
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